Staying on the topic, since the last post was about consistency when disciplining our kids, I thought we should mention that there are a few other main elements we shouldn’t forget about. Things I am reminded of everyday. Here they are…
1. BE CONSISTENT
The key to making this a successful campaign is making sure as soon as an unattractive behaviour is spotted, it is immediately addressed every time it appears so that the child knows what the issue is. Inconsistency can make children feel unsure, insecure and confused says Sal Severe, author of How to Behave So Your Children Will, Too! That is why I think consistency should be the number one thing on our list.
2. DO NOT STOOP DOWN
Do NOT ever feel like you have to explain yourself; by doing this you will make them think that an explanation is owed to them for everything. You are the parent, you know what’s right, entering a debate with your child is not wise and will give them a sense that they can challenge your views or decisions any time, whether appropriate or not. Your child should not be and is not your equal.
3. ROUND UP THE TROOPS
This needs a collective effort. Have you ever heard the saying, ‘it takes a village to raise a child’? Well get your other half involved, and if it’s not acceptable at home, it’s not acceptable at school either. Let teachers, nannies, grandparents and everyone who’s involved in the child’s life in on the campaign and the rewards will soon become apparent.
4. HONOUR THE CODE
Do not argue with your partner or another adult in front of a child on a decision that’s been made. This will only show the child that your house is not unified and in turn, they can begin manipulating the both of you. Kids are very smart manipulators, we all know this. Instead, stand by their decision for the moment and discuss the matter later to reach and agreement on the correct way to tackle future repeat instances of a similar problem.
5. DO NOT REWARD
Do not reward basic expected behaviours. This gives a false sense of accomplishment and links a behaviour with a reward that will not always be there. Instead speak highly of a positive change and promote correct behaviour as a way earning respect and associating it with a good trait. This is why values and morals need to be instilled in a child, from early on in order to instil a mammoth weight of positivity and importance to them.
Feel free to add more in the comments as I am sure there are.